Q: Recently, you’ve written some columns on forgiveness, but how can you forgive someone who’s no longer alive? After my husband passed away last year, I found out he’d been unfaithful to me and had even fathered a child, and I’m having a very hard time dealing with this. I know I should forgive him, but how can I since he’s no longer alive? — C.S.
A: I’m sorry that you find yourself in this situation. In this case, if you choose to forgive your husband, it would be entirely for your own benefit. If you feel that forgiving your late husband could be a way for you to deal with your own emotions, then consider doing so. However, you are under no obligation to forgive him.
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