Q: Two years after our mother died our father remarried (someone he’d known in high school). But he never discussed it with us, and he just can’t seem to understand why my sisters and I are having such a hard time accepting her as part of our families. Are we wrong to feel this way? — J.H.
A: You are not necessarily wrong to feel this way. However, if you love your father and value your relationship with him, you should explain your feelings to him and let him do the same. The loss of your mother was probably as hard for him as it was for you. If his new wife brings him happiness, you should try to appreciate that. If you have not taken the effort to establish an amiable relationship with your stepmother, I would urge you to try. If you still have a hard time accepting her as part of your family and if you love your father, you should consider making some sort of compromise between having a loving relationship with your father and avoiding a relationship with your stepmother. The amount of compromise you make is entirely your choice.
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