Q: Our son got engaged over Christmas. I suppose we should be happy, but we honestly wonder if our future daughter-in-law is right for him. Should we say something, or is it best to keep out of it? They seem to be deeply in love, and they both feel God brought them together. — N.J.
A: I think it depends on how old (or mature) your son is. The older or more mature he is, the less I would recommend being frank about your concerns. And then, I would only recommend saying something to him if his fiancée has demonstrated reckless or irresponsible behavior that your son doesn’t know about or appears to be ignoring.
Irrespective of whether you voice your concerns about his fiancée, you can always ask him if they have discussed and agree on major life issues such as having children, financial goals, career goals, etc. You may also suggest that they seek some type of premarital counseling that will help them consider and discuss these types of issues.
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